Staryl Ann Fischer Kaze

Written by Adrian, November 2008

2008-12-05T18:20:00.000-08:00

How Great was my Mom to give me a testimony of the importance of Family

Ever since I have became a Mom myself I have often found myself thinking about the things my Mom taught me growing up and how she got me to understand what she needed me to know before she left this earth I realize she nor I knew she would be leaving so early but the Lord did and I believe that is why I felt the spirit and his Love when I was being taught by my Mother so that it was powerful enough for me to remember when she was gone. So many times in my daily life I find myself going threw things that I think wow that's why my Mom taught me that and how grateful I am that she did. One memory that has came back to me recently , Our Family had been living day to day life just like every other Family even down to the daily fights between Sisters while getting ready for school or who was wearing who's clothes and of course how nothing was fair and all that fun stuff. Well I guess that week must have been worse than normal because My Parents finally said that's enough we are having a family meeting Sunday afternoon! By the way as kids we never liked Family Meeting it always meant that we had to sit there for an hour or longer and listen to a lecture on what needed to change and why. I can honestly say how grateful I am now as an adult for those very important lessons. Sunday came and that particular meeting was about why we as a Family needed to try harder to get along and love each other and count on each other instead of always acting like we weren't united and that it was always one of us against another. My Mom reminded us that this is the only Family we have that the Lord gave us each other and did so knowing that sometimes it would be very hard to get along but also that the Lord does not make mistakes and it was No mistake that we were born into this Family with the Parents and siblings that we have and that the Lord expects us to learn ways to get along with each other and to Love each other . Our Parents went on to say that living in the world we live in today we cant rely on anyone to be their for us help us or love us the way we should be able to count on each other.Without our Family we would need to rely on others to accept us , love us , and be their when we needed something. Isn't that all that is important anyway is our Family we get to be with them again after death and that's all we get to take along with our spirits. My Mom said to us when you fight or have hate towards anyone in your Family for what ever reason who do you think you make happy the Lord or Satan? The lord does not like to see us mistreat anyone in our Family for any reason and if he was standing next to you everyday would you say or do the things to each other that you do now ? I think you would act a lot differently towards each other if the Lord visited our home. And every time you all fight or say you don't like each other or anyone in the Family the only one smiling is Satan and he enjoys seeing that you have hate in your heart towards your Family members because that ruins the Lords plans for Families. It also hurts you emotionally and it damages your spirit . I think we should remember that we take our feelings and our thoughts with us and that is why it is so important to have clean thoughts loving thoughts and I think most important mercy and understanding towards everyone especially our Family members, remember the Lord makes no mistakes he might have known it would be hard for two spirits in the same Family to get along but maybe we can look at it as a test the Lord wants to see how we end up living with and treating a Family member that we feel is impossible to get along with he is testing us and I know that can seem like such a hard test for some but I know he is not OK with us not trying and not doing our best to Love someone that we don't get along with or that has hurt us. I think back in my life and I realize how sad I would be today without the ability to forgive others in my Family and how very sad I would be if they had not forgave me for things I have done to them. None of us are perfect and it is not our place to decide how imperfect someone is or use their faults to justify why we can not accept them or even get along with them. The Lord has asked us to forgive and Love everyone and can you imagine all the hurt and bad feelings we could be free from if we all did this. I am so Grateful my Mom always showed me unconditional Love and acceptance in my life no matter what I had done or how I had choose to live because it taught me to be more aware, more patient and more understanding to others who might not be perfect (that includes all of us). I could have lost a lot of time with my Mom if she had ever chose to not be a part of my life because of my bad decision's or because I might not have been living the way she wished I would and because she never did that I have so many more memories of her and I am so grateful for that gift of forgiveness she gave me on a daily basis, especially threw certain times of my life I'm sure she had to try even harder to really Love me unconditionally it couldn't have been very easy all the time. I want more than anything to be a Mother just like my Mom was I want to always Love and support and be there for my kids threw everything no matter how much I don't agree with what they might do. I want my children to feel my Love for them so strong everyday no matter where they are or what they are doing, I know from experience how much that will mean to them to always feel that Loved.
I don't want to leave out My Father in this testimony of Family . I wish for everyone to know how much I Love and admire my Dad. And before I tell all the ways he has influenced my life so far I would first like to add that growing up and even into my adulthood it has not always been easy for my Father and I to get along with each other in fact you could say at times we have had a pretty rocky relationship I have even wasted weeks at a time not talking to him or thinking to myself how upset I was at him wondering if I could ever forgive him sometimes we hurt each other pretty bad with stupid harsh words or said things we should not have. I look back now thinking what a waste of time that was being mad at a Man the Lord and I choose as my Dad.(Remember we also choose our parents before we came to earth) The way I see things now is that I'm sure there will be plenty more times in my life that my Father and I wont see eye to eye but if losing my Mother early has taught me anything it is that life on this earth is way to short to let anything get in the way of having the best relationship with my Father as I can. And that means I have had to learn to decide that we wont always see things the same or we could find ourselves in a argument but that I need to step out of the situation before it gets to big to control and forget what we were fighting about and concentrate on the reasons I Love and admire my Dad. For many years now I have been looking for every reason I can to admire my Dad and Love him for who he is! The most important part of that sentence and the part that has taught me the most is Loving him for him not for what I think he should be or wishing he could be. Even at times to get along with but accepting that we are different and we can still have a Great relationship. I will tell you it is not hard anymore for me to find a reason everyday to Love my Dad even more than I do. My Dad is such a hard worker any of you that know him know how hard he works at anything he is doing he always gives his best! He always said growing up to always to your very best work on anything you do even if it meant starting over losing money on a job because you had to tear something down and redo it or what ever the reason, he said no matter if someone will know the difference or not do it right. He worked so hard when we were little to support our Family threw most of my childhood he worked two jobs and even built houses on the side to make sure we had a home and food on our table, how could anyone not admire that about their Dad in today's world were a lot of men chose not to work that hard for themselves or even their families. I am so fortunate that my husband reminds me so much of my Dad in that way he is a good worker and has been known to get home very late many days of the year to support our family I know his Father use to work just as hard for his Family growing up as well and did his best to support them, that is something very important to me to pass that work ethic from both sides of our families to our sons.
My Dad also worked very hard in the church still does he gives so much of his time and spirit to the Lord every week. My Dad is very head strong as am I (could be reason it was sometimes hard to get along) . My Dad is very forgiving and compassionate towards others he is always helping someone out or doing something for a family that could use his help I don't think he has ever told anyone no. He has had many trials in his life time and has made it threw them better than I think anyone else could have what an example to me to try and get threw things with as much faith as him. My dad is a great man a wonderful Father and an even better Grandpa his grandchildren love him they light up when he comes around and all I have to do is mention to Brayden that Grandpa is coming over and he waits by the door, its the same way with Michael's Dad, I hope they know how much I appreciate them being such a fun influence in their grand kids lives how lucky are my kids to have such great Grandpas. I could go on and on about all the things I Love about my Dad but I am running out of time I will one day write a tribute to him .
But for now I want to finish up my testimony I have on Family and to Thank the Lord for letting my heart be opened to forgiveness and to understanding why we are required to Love and Forgive all men no matter what and especially Family. I know I am not perfect on this matter and never will be but I am so much further on understanding it because of losing loved ones earlier than I would have liked too but that is one of the blessing that has came with losing my Mom. I hope my testimony can help others that might be struggling the way I have in times with this I know its hard but the Lord expects it of us. And I have been so happy and grateful that My Father and I have gotten along better than ever the last few years what a blessing it is to have him and the rest of my Family in my life I think my Mom is very happy at how well we all have tried our best to get along and create lasting relationships to take with us when we meet her again on the other side. I Love all my Family so much and appreciate them all everyday for their unconditional love towards me.

Bottling Tomatoes, By Teresa

2008-10-21T07:31:00.000-07:00

Bottling Tomatoes
One of my favorite memories when I was younger was helping pick tomatoes and green beans for my Mom and aunt Staryl to bottle. They would bottle so many and it would take days to do it. The whole house would smell of tomatoes. Us kids were in charge of picking buckets full and also help snapping off the ends of the green beans. I remember doing this sitting around on Kaze's front porch talking and laughing and hearing Staryl yelling at Adriann for one thing or another!!
Last week my uncle Taft told us that he had lots of tomatoes left that no one was going to use so anyone that wanted them could have them. So, my Mom and me went and picked all of the riped tomatoes before the big freeze. That next day we spent the whole day bottling them. I didn't know what I was doing so my mom really did all of the work and I just helped here and there.
The finished product! We are ready for lots of taco soup and mac and cheese and tomatoes(NOT the mac and cheese out of the box!!)
We also made Salsa out of the tomatoes, Rob is a big salsa eater so I hope he enjoys it all the hard work I put into it!(I mean my Mom)

This was written by Teresa Adams in October 2008

Memorys on Memorial Day, 2008 By Erica

2008-05-26T11:25:00.000-07:00

Some things I can remember about mom
1. She loved Cashews, with a coke
2. She loved to read
3. She picked her feet
4. She hated people touching her hair
5. She was great with computers
6. She loved playing rummy, and dice
7. She liked to play Tetris
8. She loved Gardening, before she got sick, she always had the prettiest flowers out front
9. She almost always cooked a good meal on Sundays
10. She loved to decorate the Christmas tree
11. She liked to go fishing, (although she hardly ever fished, I think she just liked being with every one out on the lake)
12. She sun burned easily
13. She bruised easily
14. She called her kids almost everyday, or more (you better have answered the phone, or else look out)
15. She hated having her picture taken (no, its not a coincident her head is turned in almost all her pictures.)
16. She tried so hard to make it to every ballgame one of us had, even though she worked and was sick.
17. If you went out to dinner with her, she could easily embarrass you if you had a bad waiter/ress.
18. She loved her parents, but grandma says she was a daddy's girl.
19. She always took me to get onion rings at Rocky Mountain Drive Thru. (She also worked there when she was younger)
20. She spoiled her grand kids.
21. If you did something wrong, she could make you feel guilty just by looking at you.
22. I dreaded going to Reams with her, because she would sit and talk with her brother FOREVER! Sometimes I think she went there just to see him.
23. She loved watching the fireworks on the fourth of July.
24. When she was called to be Young Women's President while I was in High school, she worked hard to get her own Young Womanhood Recognition Medallion.
25. She loved Babies.
26. She loved Joe Vera's, and Chinese Food.
27.She hated to drive at night.
28. I was her Favorite, :) (hee, hee)
29. She loved doing puzzles
30. She liked to make wedding cakes

Staryl's Obituary

2008-05-25T17:10:00.000-07:00

Staryl's Funeral

2008-05-25T16:59:00.000-07:00

Staryl and Whitney

2008-05-25T16:18:00.000-07:00

This was taken on the day we blessed Whitney, its our four generation picture.

It was a tradition in our family that whenever one of kids had a baby, that my mom would give them the first bath after they got home from the hospital, Whitney did not make it easy for her at all!(sorry these Pict's are a little out of place, I know I had a lot more of these two, but I cant find them anywhere :(. )

Staryl and Jo

2008-05-25T16:06:00.000-07:00

Staryl's Retirement

2008-05-25T15:58:00.000-07:00

These are some pictures of Staryl's retirement pictures. Leaving the Library was one of the hardest things she ever did, she loved the Library and loved working there.

2008-05-25T15:48:00.000-07:00

Neil Diamond And Staryl

2008-05-20T13:59:00.000-07:00

I have added a Neil Diamond song to my moms play list. If any of you didnt know, Staryl LOVED Neil Diamond, her and Noralyn went to many concerts together!

MY SISTER

2008-05-18T21:35:00.000-07:00

When I look at all of these pictures I see Andrea, Adrian, Erica and JT. I can see my beautiful neices and nephew in Staryl. I see glimpses of Tami and Diane. Family genes are strong. I see the wonderful Fischer family and the wonderful Kaze family. I know that Staryl's spirit lives on and lives strong in each of our lives here. Just take a moment and think of her and you will feel what I mean. This life is but a moment in the eternal realms. We will all be together again. We will have the same love that we have here on this earth. It will be glorious. Thank you for bringing Staryl closer to me, this day and in the following days. I love you all. Tawny

Just Staryl

2008-05-13T10:13:00.000-07:00

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Staryl And Noralyn

2008-05-13T09:50:00.000-07:00

Staryl and Noralyn had been friends since they were little girls, how great it was they had that friendship almost all of Staryl's life. I know my mom loved her very much.

The Cruise

2008-05-13T09:41:00.000-07:00

Staryl and Taft on a cruise with friends

Staryl And Her Family

2008-05-13T09:33:00.000-07:00

One of Staryl's favorite things to do was to get together with her whole family, whether it was playing games, mostly dice, or having a picnic or just sitting on the grass talking, she loved it!

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Staryl and Chere

2008-05-13T09:12:00.000-07:00

Staryl loved her mom very much

Staryl And Taft

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Staryl And J.T.

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Staryl And Erica

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Staryl And Adrian

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Staryl And Andrea

2008-05-12T19:13:00.000-07:00

Being A Grandma

2008-05-12T19:02:00.000-07:00

My Mom Loved Being A Grandma

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More Pictures

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Resse

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Extra Pictures

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Baylor

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Grandma Again! -Tyrell!

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Grandma and Ryler

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Becoming A Grandma

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A Young Mom

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Becoming A Mom

2008-05-12T14:02:00.000-07:00

The Big Day!

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The Bride

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The Groom

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The Engagement

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A Letter My Mom Wrote While My Dad Was On A Mission

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The Courtship

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1970 Christmas Dance

1971 Preference Dance

1970 Preference Dance

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1969 Preference Dance

1970 Homecoming Dance

A Young Staryl

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The Very Early Years

2008-05-12T12:00:00.000-07:00

The little girl in this picture is Staryl

Written By Adrian 2008

2008-05-06T08:58:00.001-07:00

My Mom was the most remarkable woman I have ever known, and the all time best Mother and Grandmother in the world. The most important things in her life was the Gospel her Husband and her Children and Grandchildren. I will never forget the examples she taught me everyday by the way she lived her life. She taught me to know what is truly important in life, Family, Gospel, and being good hearted. She was always there for me no matter what I needed or how much trouble I was in, her love was truly unconditional towards me and everyone in her life. She taught me to work hard, Love Everyone, Have compassion, How to grow a garden, how to harvest a garden, Clean and Cook , Take Care of others , and to respect everyone especially my elders, my grandparents and my father. I think parents need to teach more of those things to their children it makes me sad to see how little children are taught these very important things. I was always told that you don't call in sick to work unless you are really sick because no matter what your job is they are counting on you to be there and you made a commitment and you stand by it, It will give you self respect and will make others respect you, Wow how many kids need to learn that now days. I learned how to work because every Saturday morning we had to wake up and chose to work inside or outside and we worked till noon and if we didn't then we didn't get to play the rest of the weekend that was the rule even into High school. My mom made us attend church our whole life's every Sunday it was good for us even the days we didn't want to go we sometimes as kids we still were made to go and I believe now that that was such a good thing for us some people may disagree but it taught us that we obeyed our parents and did that as a family. My mom worked while we were younger as Liberian she loved her job and she loved books and reading. Later in her life she got a degree in library science. She worked for over twenty years at the Provo City Library and was very influential in the new library being built she helped with the planning and the moving of the Library. During that time she had also been diagnosed with ovarian cancer but that didn't slow her down a bit she only got more strong and more spiritual and fought right threw the six month time frame the doctors gave her, she worked the entire time threw chemo, she was so strong , she amazed me. She ended up fighting her cancer for seven years. Half way threw her battle things were looking pretty bad but she wasn't ready to go yet so she fasted and prayed and asked the Lord if she could please stay on this earth long enough to see her son go on a mission and three years later she was still here to send him off, She passed away six months later. We all knew it would happen that way in fact my brother said he knew when he left for his mission it would be the last time her saw her on earth. I believe that my mom taught me more in twenty six years than some moms teach their kids now when they have a lifetime to do it. I even learned things by her passing, Like never take things for granted and love everyone now while you can, get over things faster because its just not worth it to hold grudges. I could go on and on of course but I'm running out of time. She loved her Grandchildren and spoiled them to pieces they all stayed many weekends at her house and she would take them any chance she got, It would be nice to still have her here for that. There is a special brick placed in the floor at the Provo City Library dedicated to her and honoring all her many years of work and dedication. Anyway I miss her and think about her everyday of my life, but she is still here with me I feel her all the time and her presence has been there at every special event so far in my life. I Love and appreciate her dearly and cant wait to see her again soon

2008-05-06T07:35:00.000-07:00

I wanted to make a blog to honor a mother, wife, friend, sister, daughter, and aunt, Staryl Kaze, one of the greatest woman I have ever known. I wanted it open to everyone, a place that anyone could come and comment on a lady that touched all of our life's, and to help keep her memory alive, not only for me, but for my kids. This time of year, I think about my mom a lot, and miss her more than ever, but this year was a little different, I was having a hard time remembering all the memory's that used to be so profound in my mind. So this is the point of this new blog, somewhere I can come and write down all the things I remember about her, a place where our children can come and there children can come to get to know a little about this amazing women. I want everyone to be a part in this blog, so it can be every ones, not just mine,
If you want to e-mail me your post or picture, I can post it on the blog for you. Or E-mail me and I will send you the user name and password so you can do it yourself. I need every ones help to make this a blog that will pay tribute and do justice to an incredible women, please pass this on to anyone who knew Staryl. I love and miss you mom, happy mothers day 2008
Erica